Decisions We’re Making Now to Protect Our Son When We Pass

After my husband and I married but before we had kids, we neglected estate planning almost entirely. And in the three years that our son has blessed us on this earth? Well, it feels like we haven’t gotten anything else in place besides potty training, solid foods and a strong sleep schedule (foundational, I can assure you!).

Yet figuring out who is going to inherit our wealth, raise our toddler in case we both pass, and cover our funeral costs seems more important than ever. In a new study, GOBankingRates found it’ll cost us an estimated $17,327 in funeral and end-of-life medical costs in our state of Texas. In the study, it calculated the cost of dying in all 50 states based on the median out-of-pocket funeral expenses and the average out-of-pocket expenditures for end-of-life necessities.

Let me walk you through the three major decisions we’ve finally made — the ones that are going to help us sleep better at night.

1. Who Will Raise Our Son in the Event We Both Pass

Figuring out who will raise our son if my husband and I both die unexpectedly kept us in “paralysis by analysis” the longest. It’s a tough choice to make.

We asked ourselves these questions while sifting through lists of trusted loved ones:

  • What are their beliefs, philosophies and religion, and do we want those passed onto our child?

  • Where do they live, and is it nearby other family or not?

  • Do they have their own children, or will they likely have their own children in the future?

  • Do they have the ability to raise our son at least somewhat in the style that we would have?

  • Would they want to take on this role?

Estate Planning Tools to Accomplish This

To designate a Guardian for your kids, you’ll need to set up a will or a living trust. We’re working with a lawyer to get ours in place.

2. How We’ll Pass the Financial Baton

The next decision we tackled was how to pass the financial baton — to either a surviving spouse, or to our heirs — while keeping as much out of the probate process, or estate court proceedings, as possible.