A six-second now-deleted TikTok video recently spurred a much larger online discussion over the ways women say they've wrested back financial control in relationships.
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While it was up, the short and sweet clip of the poster claiming that after “begging for the bare minimum for MONTHS” she was going back to work and putting her newborn in child care was shared more than 4.2 million times.
“He has time for his friends but not his wife,” the caption read over the brief video. “Here’s to my first day of work and secret bank account.”
Thousands of viewers left comments, many revealing they, too, kept secret accounts from their partners. Others shared tips or stories of similar experiences.
Money can be a touchy subject in relationships. Most experts would advise couples to be on the same page about how money is spent or saved. But in certain situations, all the traditional rules go out the window. Here’s how to figure out if honesty isn’t the best policy for you.
Secrets can set you up for trouble
Keeping secrets certainly isn’t a way to strengthen your relationship or to resolve ongoing conflict.
In fact, with financial infidelity becoming increasingly popular in the U.S., you may only make matters worse. Nearly one-in-four Americans admitted to financial infidelity in a survey commissioned by Bankrate, meaning they’re keeping financial secrets from their partners. That would definitely include having a secret bank account.
Another survey, this time by SunTrust Bank, found that 54% of Americans believed that a partner who being in debt was a major reason to consider divorce. About 3-in-5 Americans even considered putting off marriage while their partner fixed their debt.
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So, should you have one?
There are some undeniable benefits to having a bank account that’s kept away from your spouse. In the case of an emergency, you’ll have those funds available should the worst happen. This can be especially helpful if you’re in a risky relationship, like say your partner has an addiction and could use your cash to fund their habits.