It's Only Failure If You Go Home: Lessons From A Serial Entrepreneur

Originally published by Jennifer Dulski on LinkedIn: It's Only Failure If You Go Home: Lessons From A Serial Entrepreneur

This article was originally posted on Women@Forbes and is based on my new book PURPOSEFUL: Are You a Manager or a Movement Starter? out now by Portfolio, an imprint of Penguin Random House.

Anything worth doing involves overcoming obstacles—sometimes they’re small and other times enormous. Sometimes they’re expected and other times they are complete curveballs. One way to help get past setbacks is to remember that they are coming. There’s a slide I use in a lot of presentations and talks that I give. On one side of the slide there’s a picture of a grassy mountain on a sunny day, and I show a line pointing near the top, to the word “me.” On the other side there’s a photo of a steep, dangerous mountain on a dark and stormy day, and I show a line pointing to the very bottom, where it also reads “me.”

This is how I describe to people what it feels like to be an entrepreneur. It’s also how it feels to be a leader of any team or any movement. Either you’re near the top of the mountain and it’s sunny and you’ve brought a picnic lunch, or you’re down at the bottom, with a stormbrewing, carrying a heavy pack, and you’re not sure you’ll ever get to the top. These two metaphorical days rotate all the time. You don’t miraculously get past all the punishing challenges and reach eternal sunshine every day after that. Rather, it’s a never-ending cycle of sunny to cloudy to sunny to cloudy, and hopefully back to sunny again.

The key to success is holding on to the belief that you’ll have more sunny days than cloudy ones and to just keep climbing, every day, no matter what. Great leaders not only keep climbing on both types of days but also inspire their teams to climb with them. The cloudy days and failures we face along the way, make us stronger and more prepared for each upcoming challenge. In my own experience as a startup founder, I learned in painful detail that failure is a necessary part of the process of building something.

In my own experience as a startup founder, I learned in painful detail that failure is a necessary part of the process of building something.

After nearly ten years moving up in the ranks at Yahoo!, I wanted to see if I could build a company from the ground up—a product that would solve an important user need, an outstanding team, and an inspiring company culture. I wanted to try my hand at being a founder and CEO. While I was excited for the challenge, I had my fair share of apprehension. I knew that the possibility of failure with startups was extremely high. In fact, I remember reading a statistic in The Book of Odds that said I was more likely to report seeing a UFO (one out of 5.8 U.S. adults) than for my startup company to succeed (depending on what source you use, between one out of seven and one out of ten).